Letting go of toxic people

We all know that one person who is negative about everything . The one that we try to avoid at all cost because they can really ruin our mood at times. It would be easy to talk about distancing yourself from those people, but what about the people we consider our friends? You know, the people we allow in our circle and spill our thoughts and feelings to. I know I’m not alone when I say that I have had to cut some people out of my life this new year, simply because I made up in my mind that I’m chasing after God with all that I have and not allowing any body to hold me back. There are people that God connects you to, but then there are those who come as stumbling blocks. It’s our job to analyze our lives and determine if those people are going to help us progress or digress in our walk with God. The moment I realized that God put people in my life to challenge me and to help me grow spiritually is when I also saw those people who did the opposite. Some relationships I had weren’t healthy or bringing me closer to God. The Holy Spirit started to work in me and showed me that I needed to let go. It became a battle between my flesh and my spirit because let’s be honest, it’s easy to get attached to people when they seem to be there for you when no one else is. Being alone with God is better than being with bad company. I saw that my behavior, my speech, my thoughts were changing the more I gave my time and my ear to those people. It wasn’t changing for the better either, they brought cloudy judgement and confusion to my mind. Now looking back I see where my life could have took a turn for destruction, But God. God loves us so much that He will start bringing an uncomfortableness and conviction when you give your precious time to casual people. You will feel in your gut that maybe you shouldn’t answer that phone call or text message, maybe you should separate yourself and ask God “Who is who?” Just like Judas was in Jesus’s circle there are people who are close to us that want to see us die spiritually or who the enemy will use for our downfall. However there are those that you clash with in life that God placed there purposely to mold your character so ask God for discernment. Letting go and letting God is humanly hard because it requires faith and trust in God and let’s be honest we love to be in control. You have to know that people come and go, but God is eternal. Some people are seasonal, some people you just out grow and it’s okay to move forward with your life. Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” This is one of my favorite bible verses because it speaks to me ever so clearly. Even when I want to settle for an ordinary life God called me for greater. He loves me so much that He reminds me not to settle for just any type of relationship or friendship. He reminds me that He didn’t create me to be weighed down or harmed, but to thrive! How can we prosper when we are hanging with people that have a slave mentality? Proverbs 13:20 says “Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.” I found myself in a place of being unsatisfied with my life and in reality it was the Holy Spirit shaking me out of that lukewarm lifestyle. I had a choice, obey or disobey. I wanted to finally start seeing myself the way God sees me and living that abundant life. I had to start walking forward and not going in the same circle. I had to break free from everyone and everything that was hindering me from walking in complete obedience. My pastor said one day “partial obedience is complete disobedience.” I had to let go and let God and the moment I did I started to detox. Detox is a process or period of time in which one abstains from or rids the body of toxic or unhealthy substances. The process isn’t easy and you may go through your own type of withdrawals, like having to refrain from any type of contact with them, but the end results will be a new and improved, healthier minded you. At the end of the day the ball is in our court and we must choose between being satisfied with where we are or wanting more. Once we put our faith into action God will be there to back us up all the way. It’s a scary move and a selfish one. Maybe this your season where God is telling you “it’s okay to be selfish this time.” Don’t be like a balloon filled with helium, but still not soaring because you refuse to detach yourself to the weight that’s holding you down. Today if you are reading this God is calling you to excel! It’s a new season, the past is over! There is a fresh oil coming, take that step and don’t look back!


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